# Ashley Kelsch
> On desire, pleasure, and coming home to yourself. Writing and coaching for women navigating midlife, embodiment, and the awakening nobody warned them about.
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## Pages
- [About Ashley](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/about.md) - For almost ten years, I owned a lingerie and sexual wellness boutique in Austin called Teddies for Bettys. The real education of my life happened in dressing rooms. I spent nearly a decade standing with women while they looked at themselves in the mirror. We talked about bras and bodies and relatio…
- [Work With Me](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/work-with-me.md) - What you need is a way back into your body. Most women are not drinking because they love wine. They are drinking because being in their body does not feel that good. Not fully. Not honestly. Not without effort. This is where the conversation becomes real. This isn't about more discipline. It's abo…

## Posts
- [Quitting Drinking, Desire & Reinventing Yourself in Midlife](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/quitting-drinking-desire-reinventing-yourself-in-midlife.md) - A conversation about quitting drinking in midlife, the hidden search beneath self-help, and why desire is about far more than sex. Ashley Kelsch and Allison Deraney explore the stories women inherit about aging, aliveness, and what it really means to come home to yourself.
- [Coming soon](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/coming-soon.md) - This is Ashley Kelsch, a brand new site by Ashley Kelsch that's just getting started. Things will be up and running here shortly, but you can subscribe in the meantime if you'd like to stay up to date and receive emails when new content is published!
- [On Aliveness and the Things We Don't Let Ourselves Feel (2023)](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/on-aliveness-and-the-things-we-dont.md) - I recorded this in 2023. I’m putting it back out because everything I’m building now grew from what’s in here; a body that learns to feel everything becomes a body that needs to escape nothing.
- [Where Did the Desire Go?](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/where-did-the-desire-go.md) - Your life force didn't disappear. It just stopped having anywhere alive to go.
- [I Thought Wine Was My Problem. It turned out I had no idea what to do with myself.](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/i-thought-wine-was-my-problem-it.md) - On free time, wine in bed, and the self I hadn’t met yet.
- [Lately, This: My Daughter Graduated and Something Unexpectedly Shifted](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/lately-this-my-daughter-graduated.md) - On motherhood, cold plunges, and what my pelvic floor apparently knew first.
- [Midlife Women, Wine, and the 3am Wake-Up](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/midlife-women-wine-and-the-3am-wake.md) - Why the thing many midlife women use to unwind is often the same thing waking them up in the middle of the night.
- [What We Call Self-Care Doesn’t Last](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/what-we-call-self-care-doesnt-last.md) - The things that helped in the moment weren’t the same things that healed.
- [It Was Never Wild or Sober](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/it-was-never-wild-or-sober.md) - Wine was sold to us as the thing that would make us looser, freer, more ourselves. Sex got sold the same way.
- [Ten Years of Journals. Only the Names Changed.](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/ten-years-of-journals-only-the-names.md) - I thought going back would feel like growth. It felt more like a weather report.
- [We Were Introduced to Our Bodies. Nobody Taught Us to Feel Them.](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/nobody-taught-us.md) - On desire, alcohol, and the awakening nobody warned you about.
- [The Girl Who Was Told To Be Quiet](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-girl-who-was-told-to-be-quiet.md) - Alcohol gave the angry girl a door. Sobriety meant learning how to open it.
- [Nobody Witnessed My Rock Bottom](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/nobody-witnessed-my-rock-bottom.md) - For the women whose lives look completely fine from the outside.
- [Is It My Hormones, a Hangover, or Who I’m Becoming?](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/is-it-my-hormones-a-hangover-or-who.md) - What happened when I removed the one thing holding my life together
- [Unfucking Midlife: You Said You Wanted It. So Why Don’t You Have It?](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-midlife-you-said-you-wanted.md) - Most women I know are not confused about what they want. They know. They’ve known for years.
- [The Hidden Connection Between Wine, Sex, and Why You Feel Numb at Midlife](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-hidden-connection-between-wine.md) - What happens when wine becomes the bridge to sensation and desire slowly goes quiet.
- [Unfucking Midlife: Turning 46](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-midlife-turning-46.md) - On mortality, grey hair, and the freedom that comes from finally not giving a fuck
- [You Don't Have a Drinking Problem. You Have an Aliveness Problem.](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/you-dont-have-a-drinking-problem.md) - I’ve watched this pattern play out over and over…
- [Safety Was What I Needed. I Just Didn't Know How to Get It.](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/safety-was-what-i-needed-i-just-didnt.md) - A story about what happens when your nervous system mistakes wine for safety.
- [Unfucking Midlife: The Strength in Unfolding](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-midlife-the-strength-in.md) - Because some parts of us don't need fixing, they just need space.
- [They Absolutely Care That You're Not Drinking](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/they-absolutely-care-that-youre-not.md) - What happens when you stop drinking and everyone around you has feelings about it
- [Buzz Kill](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/buzz-kill-9ba.md) - How Alcohol, Dopamine, and Human Giver Syndrome Are Drinking Women to Death
- [When the Soul Says, “Bitch, Wake Up.”](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/when-the-soul-says-bitch-wake-up.md) - Marie-Louise von Franz wrote, “Only when the eternal girl dies can the woman be born.” I think my body got the memo before I did.
- [Bras, Brain Rot, and the Internet Outrage Machine](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-algorithm-of-the-universe-never.md) - In 48 hours: Liz Gilbert hot takes, death videos, and Jimmy Kimmel canceled. The internet rewards outrage; all I get is cognitive dissonance and brain rot.
- [The Secrets Women Keep and Why We Should Tell On Ourselves](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-10-the-secrets-we-keep.md) - I won’t pretend to know what it feels like to pull at the thread of a decades-long marriage. I do know the fear of revealing what I’m really thinking and how it might disrupt the lives of others.
- [Signal Over Noise, But Make it Pleasure](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-wrong-head-why-women-need-to.md) - How a simple business principle became my guide to finding calm in the crazy
- [Midlife and the ‘I Can’t Believe This Is My Life’ Moment](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/midlife-and-the-i-cant-believe-this.md) - From shame and “shoulds” to momentum and meaning: making midlife count.
- [Stress Training for Midlife: When Starting Over Isn't an Option](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/stress-training-for-midlife-when.md) - Midlife stress is layered: aging parents, teens, partners, money, health and no option to burn it all down & start over. The “fuck it, I’m out” approach doesn’t hit the same, and often isn't possible.
- [Is What You’re Getting Worth Grieving What You’re Not?](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/is-what-youre-getting-worth-grieving.md) - When “doing the work” in a relationship starts to feel like you’re the one getting worked.
- [When Your Soul Won't Stop Knocking: How My 40's Taught Me to Live an Erotic Life](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/when-your-soul-wont-stop-knocking.md) - What happens when you finally stop asking "Is this it?" and start asking "How can I live a life that feels full and turned on?"
- [The Midlife Sex Revolution: Why Women Are Finally Getting What They Want With Dr. Holly Richmond](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-midlife-sex-revolution-why-women.md) - The cultural moment that's redefining sexuality after 40
- [The Midlife Move: No Sudden Movements](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-midlife-move-no-sudden-movements.md) - And How Anne Lamott’s Advice to “Never Give Up” Is More Important Than Ever
- [Unfucking the Hijack: What Getting Distracted is Actually Costing You](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-the-hijack-what-getting.md) - The everyday distractions that seem normal are hijacking more than your time—they're costing you your peace, progress, and power
- [The Midlife Lie: Why 40+ Is When Life Actually Begins](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/themidlifelie.md) - Debunking the biggest lie about midlife: that your best years are behind you. Discover why your 40s are actually when your mind is finally ready to create the life you want, not settle for less.
- [I Had It All, Remember?](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/i-had-it-all-remember.md) - A candid reflection on success at 20 vs wisdom at 40+, and why the 'too late' narrative about midlife dreams needs to be unfucked
- [Unfucked In Under 10: Watch Your Mouth- Your Cells Are Listening, Babe](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/watch-your-mouth-your-cells-are-listening.md) - You think you’re just being funny when you say “I’m old.” But your cells? They don’t get the joke. Instead they cue cortisol...
- [Stop Saying Your Old: How Your Words Literally Age You Faster](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/stop-saying-your-old-how-your-words.md) - The Language That's Stealing Years From Your Life- And How to Change It
- [That's So Mid #9: Better Late Than Never (Beginner Lessons from the Tennis Court)](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-9-better-late-than-never.md) - Plus Intermezzo and Martyr book reviews, the Emma Grede Aspire episode that got me thinking, and a summer recipe
- [The Self-Help Slut Part 2:](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-self-help-slut-part-2.md) - What Has to Happen Before the Books Actually Work
- [We're Aging In, Not Out](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/were-aging-in-not-out.md) - Because here's the truth: we're not aging out of anything that matters—we're aging into who we were always meant to be.
- [Unfucking Business: It Was Never About ‘No Risk, No Reward’—It’s About Resilience](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-business-it-was-never-about.md) - I was so focused on the idea of success, the romanticized side of entrepreneurship, that I didn't learn to value the struggle itself. The obstacles weren't setbacks—they were the journey.
- [Let a Little Shit Run You Out? On Gardens, Goop, and Glennon ](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/let-a-little-shit-run-you-out-on.md) - This is not a threat to me or anyone else; this is the opening and broadcasting of a message that can reach the masses.
- [Companion Worksheet: The Self-Help Slut](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/companion-worksheet-the-self-help.md) - I know the irony in this but hey, I like to create extra value for paying subscribers
- [The Self-Help Slut: How I Stopped Trying to Fix Everything and Finally Changed](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-self-help-slut-how-i-stopped.md) - The Sophisticated Ways We Avoid Our Problems & The Simple Solution That's Been There All Along
- [The Art of Reinvention: Styling a New Life with Laurel Kinney](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-art-of-reinvention-styling-a.md) - Protein, Nudity, and Finding Your Iconic Midlife Self
- [That's So Mid #8: When You Can’t Afford a Crisis But Can’t Afford Not to Change](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-8-when-you-cant-afford.md) - Exploring why midlife isn’t about crisis but about honesty, shedding armor that no longer serves you, and embracing who you truly are—even when the economy says you can’t afford it.
- [Unfucking Midlife: My Unconventional Relationship with ChatDaddy](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-midlife-my-unconventional.md) - Is flirting with AI wrong if it gives you the perfect workout plan in five seconds?
- [Unfucking Love, Marriage & More with Molly R Winter](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-love-marriage-and-more.md) - “What I wanted to show is, is that I've arrived someplace else and it doesn't also mean that this is a how to manual or a manifesto. I'm not trying to get people to do what I'm doing.”
- [Why Some Women Thrive with Casual Sex (And Others Don't): Exploring Sociosexual Differences Part 2](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/why-some-women-thrive-with-casual.md) - True sexual liberation isn't about what you do—it's about aligning what you do with who you are.
- [Unsolicited: Sex and the Single Woman Part 1](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unsolicited-sex-and-the-single-woman.md) - What often gets lost for women is the understanding that good sex isn't something that happens to you—it's something you participate in creating. Let me say it this way: pleasure is not outside of you
- [Playing the Hand You’re Dealt: A Conversation with Donna Blevins on Poker, Mindset, and the Power of Self-Talk](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/playing-the-hand-youre-dealt-a-conversation.md) - In poker, as in life, you don’t always get the cards you want. But according to Donna Blevins, the secret to winning—both at the table and beyond—isn’t in the hand you’re dealt, but in how you play it
- [Sexually Symbolic, Socially Accepted: Cheerleaders, Strippers & the Double Standards of Desire](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/sexually-symbolic-socially-accepted-aea.md) - America's Sweethearts are allowed to be sexy without consequence—they can be desired without being diminished- something the rest of us are forced to navigate in ways that make others comfortable.
- [(Repost) Exploring Polyamory, Non-Monogamy, and the Realities of Modern Love: A Conversation with Molly R. Winter](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/repost-exploring-polyamory-non-monogamy.md) - Curious about polyamory but skeptical about what holds open marriages together— My evolving perspective led me to a burning question: What keeps you and your husband together?
- [That's So Mid #7: Feels like January 49th](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-7-feels-like-january.md) - Fran Lebowitz, Substack Writers Who Got Intimate, and a Few Good Distractions for the Months that Feel Never-Ending
- [Unfucking Your Dating Life: Brain-Based Tools for Lasting Change](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfucking-your-dating-life-brain-03d.md) - with Elisabeth Kristof of Brain-Based Wellness and co-host of the Apple Top 100 podcast, Trauma Rewired
- [Official Trailer: Unfucking Midlife with Ashley Kelsch](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/official-trailer-unfucking-midlife.md) - Hey there, and welcome to Unfucking Midlife. I'm Ashley Kelsch your host, and I'm so excited you're here. Whether you're in midlife, approaching it or just curious about what it's all about, this podcast is for you. Let's face it, Midlife is a mind fuck. It's the, um, phase of life, the pause where…
- [When the Women Before Me Are Gone](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/when-the-women-before-me-are-gone.md) - Right or wrong, I keep having this recurring thought that the women before me are gone, that I'm the last one standing. I know this isn't true because my daughter stands beside me. Still...
- [Unpacking Babygirl: Exploring Sexuality, Womens Roles, and Midlife Awakenings](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unpacking-babygirl-exploring-sexuality.md) - Her inability to articulate what she wanted + the clumsy way she navigated her desires felt uncomfortably familiar. I was reminded of myself & the first time I stepped into the role expected to submit
- [Financial Literacy, the 'Guy from Last Year,' and My In & Out List for 2025](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/spent-the-guy-from-last-year-and.md) - I opened Spent and saw the words “disease of the spirit” and "Financial Literacy." The latter two words I'd somehow never paired together before. It reminded me of the first time I saw "Porn Literacy"
- [That's So Mid #6: Seasons, Repeat Behaviors and Choosing Privacy Over Performance + a Life Changing Pie Crust Recipe](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-6-seasons-cycles-and.md) - All of these should have been clues, signaling that it is the end of the year and that we have, yet again, gone through another season of seasons and cycled through the cycles.
- [Is There a Guide for Midlife Holidays? Asking for Me.](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/is-there-a-guide-for-midlife-holidays.md) - I thought dating would simplify as an empty nester. Instead, it’s brought new challenges: how do I juggle my kids, boyfriend, and ex during the holidays?
- [Body Before Business: Getting on Your Own Nerves in a Touched-Out World](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/body-before-business-getting-on-your.md) - The obvious advice is to spend less time online. But let's be honest: going offline isn't realistic for everyone. And even IRL relationships can trigger the same emotional disturbances.
- [Shaved Brows, Ann Coulter and Not Knowing](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/shaved-brows-anne-coulter-and-not.md) - I can't say that any of this is unprecedented; a woman in her mid-40s looks back on her life only to realize she wasn't living her own for most of it.
- [That’s So Mid #5: I Heard Everything You Said](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-5-i-heard-everything.md) - 'I heard everything you said,' I said as I walked alongside my friend. It was a phrase I learned from her, though perhaps it's not so much the phrase as the practice. She's one of the few people in my life who listens so hard that when there's silence, she echoes, "I'm still listening." I had no id…
- [Unf*cking The Worry: Embracing the Messiness of Motherhood in Midlife](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/unfcking-worry-embracing-the-mess.md) - my thoughts spin like a never-ending social media reel, cycling through worries and “what ifs” on repeat. No matter how much I meditate, pray, or journal, that incessant chatter remains.
- [🧶 The Unf*cking Open Discussion: Midlife Myths, Wellness Trend You've Tried & Something New Your Doing](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-unfcking-thread-midlife-myths.md) - Let's Talk
- [Curl Up & Dye](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/curl-up-and-dye.md) - Somewhere in the mix of bleach and survival, I wonder if my hair was already going gray back then—I was just too busy dyeing to notice.
- [That's So Mid #4: Talking Shit, Hormones & Letting Go + rec's to get you through](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-4-talking-shit-hormones.md) - I thought my constipation was purely mental. A side effect of my brain refusing to let go of the idea that my boyfriend might know what happens behind closed bathroom doors. Turns out it's more...
- [Highway to Hell: Understanding the Difference Between Perimenopause and Menopause](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/highway-to-hell-understanding-the.md) - Think of perimenopause as puberty’s alter ego, where your hormones decide to throw a wild party in your late 30s or 40s. Only the party favors are mood swings, anxiety, and sleepless nights
- [The Slow Burn](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-slow-burn.md) - When my therapist suggested more sleep, I paused. My mind immediately pushed back: Isn't that lazy? Aren’t I supposed to be hustling? Wasn’t there a hashtag telling me to grind harder?
- [That's So Mid #3: The Power of Pause](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-the-power-of-pause.md) - Living with the results of my impulsive behavior over the years has made me hesitate, questioning my ability to know what to do next. 'Don't take the first think' has been a daily mantra
- [The Tortoise and the Tone](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-tortoise-and-the-tone.md) - And that’s when I realized—Tori might be the one family member who gets me. Sometimes, a little hiss isn’t a sign of personal attack or mean-spiritedness. It’s just the way we’re built.
- [Dailies](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/dailies.md) - Of course my dad is building his own coffin, my kids are reminding me of my sibling relationship and more from the road
- [That's So Mid #2](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-2.md) - Hot Heat, Hormones & Kids Who Come Back Home + the album you didn't know you needed to dance to, a couple of midlife relatable reads and a cookie recipe that I wish I didn't know
- [For the love of books and boyfriends](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/for-the-love-of-books-and-boyfriends.md) - Should we expect them to be easy and effortless? Or is trudging normal? And do we really have to finish just because we started?
- [Single Minded](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/single-minded.md) - I know I’m not alone when I share the main sentiment or train of thought upon arriving at this juncture; “the last thing on my mind is another relationship”. And yet...
- [Coming To Know What You Want](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/coming-to-know-what-you-want.md) - If you aren’t working on becoming an expert at your life and mastering your Self, you will be left circling the drain while everyone washes their opinions and advice all over you
- [That's So Mid #1](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/thats-so-mid-1.md) - the mid month round up your mid life needs
- [Self Serving](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/self-serving.md) - It didn’t take long for the luxury of not having to figure out 'what's for dinner?’ wore off. Maybe because the core of who I am depended on it.
- [Exploring Polyamory, Non-Monogamy, and the Realities of Modern Love: A Conversation with Molly R. Winter](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/learning-more.md) - Curious about polyamory but skeptical about what holds open marriages together— My evolving perspective led me to a burning question: What keeps you and your husband together?
- [East of Eden in West Texas](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/east-of-eden-in-west-texas.md) - I was holding the steering wheel with my normal 10 and 2, staring at the wide open road in front of me & answered, out loud without hesitation, the experience I had reading East of Eden was betrayal.
- [Yes, I Had an Affair. No, That’s Not the Most Interesting Part](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/resolve-to-evolve.md) - Cyberbullying, midlife tenderness, and the surprising gift of being called a parasite w-h-o-r-e online.
- [An Audit of My Heart](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/an-audit-of-my-heart.md) - 2023 the year I untangled this heart of mine AND found it still has a pulse
- [Looking For 'Serious Fun'](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/looking-for-seriously-fun.md) - Can the attitude of 'Serious Fun', that proved to work with sex & dating, work equally as well with Substack & Instagram?
- [From Nest Half Full To On Empty](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/from-nest-half-full-to-on-empty.md) - On letting go so we can become
- [Navigating the Complicated Holiday Season with Family](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/navigating-the-complicated-holiday.md) - *Written for Tribeza 11.23.22*: AFTER DEALING WITH THE RECENT LOSS OF MY MOTHER, I FIND MYSELF REFLECTING ON HOLIDAY EXPERIENCES AND TRADITIONS
- [Your Friends Dating Your Former Lovers](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/your-friends-dating-your-former-lovers.md) - from the archives- how likely are you to 'refer' your former dates out?
- [Dear Ash, What is Your Current Dating Situation](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/dear-ash-what-is-your-current-dating.md) - well, there have been some situations. situations that as a mom, I thought I was well past experiencing...
- [In an Instant, Instagram](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/in-an-instant-instagram.md) - moments being lost by the minute by the hour by the day
- [What I Quit After I Quit Drinking](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/what-i-quit-after-i-quit-drinking.md) - I thought quitting drinking was the hard part. Then I had to quit me.
- [At First Sight](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/coup-de-foudre.md) - When you meet someone and know 'something' is there
- ["Mom, I Feel Like I'm Losing My Marbles"](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/losing-my-marbles.md) - I can’t speak on behalf of all parents, but I can tell you that the ‘sitting back and watching my kids figure it out on their own’ approach has been anything but natural for me.
- [Being Sex Positive in a Sex Negative Culture](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/being-sex-positive-in-a-sex-negative.md) - How Can The Sex Be Great When We Can't See Through Our Conditioning
- [Your Dating History; Public or Private](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/your-dating-history-public-or-private.md) - Are we obligated to share our romantic histories with present company?
- [Shame Around Self Pleasuring & Masturbation](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/shame-around-self-pleasuring-and.md) - What do you think about when you touch yourself? A guided worksheet for supporting subs 🪄🗒️
- [An Orgasm is Like Lunch...](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/an-orgasm-is-like-lunch.md) - We are at the beginning of a sexual revolution. Who's coming with me?
- [Buzz Kill](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/buzz-kill.md) - For the first time in history, women are narrowing the gender gap in deaths from alcohol and/or alcohol related.
- [Built to Last: When Sex Tests the Limits of Home Furniture](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/built-to-last.md) - How many f*cks can a frame take before it breaks? Are furniture makers and manufacturers taking this into consideration?
- [Secure, Anxious, Avoidant- Oh My!](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/secure-anxious-avoidant-oh-my.md) - We’ve got a trio of attachment styles to dissect, re-name and reframe.
- [Navigating Attachment and Dating](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/navigating-attachment-and-dating.md) - Strategies for Finding Safety Within with Angela Wetzel
- [BTS… I’m prepping my coffee the night before](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/your-weekly-update.md) - Life feels very wholesome at the moment, and I love it. BIG time.
- [A Morning Quickie](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/a-morning-quickie.md) - is Barbie getting choked or choking out Ken?!
- [August Edition of Rec's + Vlog](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/august-edition-of-recs-vlog.md)
- [Hi! I'm Off Social but Not Substack 🫶](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/hi-im-off-social-but-not-substack.md) - Plus, How bad do you want it? This weeks podcast about dating and it's adverse side effects coming sooooon
- [Conflict in Relationships](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/conflict-in-relationships.md) - It’s up to you to clean up your thoughts and move away from unhelpful emotion
- [Dumb and Dumber](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/dumb-and-dumber.md) - "A Cycle of Deception: Falling for False Promises and Lies"
- [Mind-Blowing Female Pleasure: Why Women Are Getting Soaked Without Traditional Sex](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/soaked.md) - From Mormon 'Soaking' to 10-Finger Techniques: The Pleasure Revolution Women Are Lining Up For
- [Avoid the Unavailable When Looking for a Partner](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/avoid-the-unavailable-when-looking.md) - RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE ATTENTION AND RESPECT, BUT NOT EVERYONE CAN OFFER THAT
- [Eat Pray Hide](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/eat-pray-hide.md) - I was out to dinner with friends when I felt my crown come loose and fall out. As if that wasn't awkward enough, a man I'd harbored a crush on for years approached and offered me a ride.
- [Dear Ash, I'm dating a dad with a toddler...](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/dear-ash-im-dating-a-dad-with-a-toddler.md) - My hot take on dating single parents and how to handle not knowing when you'll hear back & how someone feels
- [Mourning Glow Edition #4 My resistance to the 'family man'](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/mourning-glow-edition-4-my-resistance.md) - Welcome to the March Edition of Mourning Glow; that one time a month we take a break from the sex and dating diaries to focus on our slow roll. *sort of…. In short, the Mourning Glow is an offering of 3 practices, tips or suggestions for you to consider when you’ve run out of ideas. This month I’ve…
- [The Measure of Pleasure](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/im-not-a-size-queen.md) - In a world that says sizes matters, I'd like to declare, I'm not a size queen
- [Your Dating Questions Answered](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/your-dating-questions-answered.md) - This month I'm weighing in on some dating doubts and droughts
- [3% of women](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/3-of-women.md) - How 'nice shoes' turned into a mans plea for me to deliver a message
- [The Dating Questions You Want to Ask...](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/the-dating-questions-you-want-to.md)
- [An Amateur](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/an-amateur.md)
- [Mourning Glow Edition 3](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/mourning-glow-edition-3.md) - Songs that are reminiscent of painful love stories; songs of longing and heartbreak; the ones most people would associate to romantic partners, beckon my mother.
- [Mourning Glow Edition 2](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/mourning-glow-edition-2p.md) - Why not start the day with a date in bed?
- [Tribeza Gives My Navigating Co-Parenting Column A Nod as A Favorite of 2022](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/how-timely-tribeza-gives-my-navigating.md) - And I just happen to be on a road trip with him navigating our driving
- [Mourning Glow Edition 1](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/mourning-glow-edition-1.md) - Never a morning person, I'm having to fine tune the art of my slow roll while grieving
- [When you find out your partner is cheating and the other woman doesn't know](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/when-you-find-out-your-partner-is-6a4177b31be2c4000f3120d1.md) - A reader asks for advice while their group of friends grapple with what the 'right thing' to do is
- [Navigating the Complicated Holiday Season with Family](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/tribeza-column-navigating-the-complicated.md) - AFTER DEALING WITH THE RECENT LOSS OF MY OWN MOTHER, I FIND MYSELF REFLECTING ON HOLIDAY EXPERIENCES AND TRADITIONS
- [death and taxes](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/death-and-taxes.md) - I woke up this morning with an unusual amount of dread. ‘I don’t want to do today’ is not an uncommon thought for me to wake to, but today it has never felt more true. Unlike most days where it’s the usual work, run, be, repeat, today I am flying back to NM to pick out an urn for my Mothers ashes.…
- [Join my new subscriber chat](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/join-my-new-subscriber-chat.md) - A private space for us to converse and connect
- [Running into Forgiveness](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/running-into-forgiveness.md) - This is how it will always be: Regardless of the kind of parent you were or become, eventually you will be the reason your child needs therapy.
- [The Ins and Outs of Dating a Single Parent](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/tribeza-column-the-ins-and-outs-of.md) - THIS WEEK I RESPOND TO A READER NAVIGATING THE TRICKY INNER MONOLOGUE THAT COMES WITH ESTABLISHING A NEW CONNECTION
- [Lessons in Casual Dating](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/tribeza-column-lessons-in-casual.md) - THE DATING SCENE HAS CHANGED IMMENSELY, BUT ONE THING REMAINS CONSTANT: THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION
- [Are Relationships Really Figureoutable](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/september-tribeza-column-are-relationships.md) - “IN THIS ERA OF SELF HELP AND DOING THE WORK, WE PROCLAIM THAT WE ARE DOING THE HARD THINGS, BUT WHAT DOES THAT REALLY LOOK LIKE?”
- [5 Months without Drinking Compared to My 5 Years without](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/5-months.md) - It would appear I no longer have a 'thinking' problem
- [Losing My Edge](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/losing-my-edge.md) - Inner Momologue: there are days I question how I did it all and if I still have it in me to keep going.
- [Rocket To The Moon with the Osé 2](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/rocket-to-the-moon-with-the-ose-2.md) - This Pleasure Object from Lora DiCarlo Brings the Blended O You're Looking For
- [Navigating The Highs and Low's of Co Parenting](https://www.ashleykelsch.com/navigating-the-highs-and-lows-of.md) - HOW MY I CAME TO RAISE MY CHILDREN WITH MY FORMER BOYFRIEND
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